Do you think it's wrong to take children to funerals, should such things be kept from them until they are much older?
Finally, do you hold funerals for your children's pets?
Hi Violet & all ,Violet wrote:Every funeral i've been to has been different, sometimes open coffins, sometimes closed, I think it's good for children to attend, i'd never expect a child to view a body though, that can be shocking for an adult never mind a child, I saw a family member when I was 18 and it stayed with me for months after, every time I closed my eyes I saw him.
Hi Violet ,Violet wrote:
Though I have heard of kids who were forced to kiss deceased relatives in their coffins and it has stayed with them into very old age sometimes and made them fear death. Personally I think that's going too far, if they want to kiss them fair enough but they shouldn't be forced.
maybe if i 'd known him, i would not have been afraid.
Violet wrote:Hi Psychoslice, It would be good, but no matter how much we believed we would see them again I don't think it would prevent the pain of the pysical loss though it may lessen it considerably.
exac tac tacka ally! i've just had my mum die and i've gone through the whole gammut this month and said to my sister we've been sold a crock! if the 'fathers' who wrote the 'holy books' had not edited it, i believe and funerals (revolting things) were all proceeded with differently, and people in so called religious institutions/ practices endeavoured to teach and learn what realy transpires after death rather than just "in the embrace of the heavenly father" it would be a whole 'nother thing. death is a birth! at least to someone, somewhere else.psychoslice wrote:Hi Violet yea just imagine how we would be if we were brought up in a world where we were taught to celebrate death, just as we celebrate birth ?. Of course the sadness would be there but not in a neurotic since but more in a bye for now way.