Anger

Is anger ever positive? Do you get angry and if so how often, what kind of things make you angry?
Do you ever take your anger out on things or people?

Do you think becoming angry can be a good thing now and again as venting releases emotions?
How long does your anger last? Do you simmer for days or is it a brief explosion?
What are your thoughts?

I am answering cos I want to come back to this and I'll lose it otherwise.
I am leaving for work in a mo.

I rarely get angry, I get more disappointed or sad
And no, I don't see anger as a good thing at all. though I know some do.
What makes me disappointed or sad? .......
Ignorance, rudeness, greed, hate, selfishness.
I could go deeper into politics, but I shall not.
About anger releasing emotions, I don't understand what these emotions are that need releasing.
If one remains calm and accepts that things do happen that are out of our control and just get on with putting them right again (if one can) and understand that everything happens for a reason, that whatever happens has happened and was supposed to happen it makes ones life easier.
There's my two penneth.

Hmmm.....a case of do what I say, not as I do....

Is anger a good thing? Isn't that a case of perspective? That and what the anger is for? Far too many people (including me) get angry over little things...things that, by themselves would have no consequence. But, when you combine that little thing with all the stresses of society, it quickly blossoms into something ugly.

I think we all need to look to the root cause of our anger. Is it TRUELY that object or action that is making us angry, or, as I stated above, merely a combination of environmental factors that, when added in, cause this negative reaction?

Is anger a good thing? I don't think that any negative emotion (an emotion that does not bring Light and Love) is a good thing. We are too quick to anger without understanding why things happened the way they did to make us angry. If we attempt to understand first, we would anger less, and love more.

Do I get angry? Sure do.

Do I explode? Sure do....sometimes

Do I simmer afterward? Sometimes.

Does it make me feel good? No, it does not. I end up tense, upset stomach, chest pains, headache, and just plain out of sorts because of it. It does me much more harm than it did the person or object that i became angry at.

Violet wrote:Is anger ever positive? Do you get angry and if so how often, what kind of things make you angry?
Do you ever take your anger out on things or people?

Do you think becoming angry can be a good thing now and again as venting releases emotions?
How long does your anger last? Do you simmer for days or is it a brief explosion?
What are your thoughts?

Absolutely, anger is a positive, healing emotion! (grieving process: 1-denial, 2-anger, 3-bargaining, 4-depression, 5-acceptance). Its a stage in the grieving process. If you don't acknowledge it, you can't move on. The length of your time being angry depends on the depth of the pain/betrayal/loss. Its OK to get angry when someone you love dies. Its OK to be angry when you find out your cousin is gay. When you are healing from the loss of how you think your world should be, you are becoming more accepting of people, more caring, more loving person! One of my favorite therapies that I do for myself alone, or I have asked my children to do when they cannot stop teasing each other (which is always due to a buried anger), I do this....

"Stand up and get ready to scream. Yell... shout! Don't be shy, come on, this is a safety zone. No one is going to pick on you, or make fun of you. Whatever you're feeling is valid and does not need explanation or proof. I want you to yell at the top of your lungs "I'm angry that!" and at the end you complete that sentence.

And then step back. Cause its gonna be emotional. Try it.

It takes a lot for me to get angry, but that's a very good idea for those who do regularly.

ok, what happened, everything was check till that wrench witch came top over.

ok no it wasn`t me - it was that trick bug.

ok i deserve but what`s up with this gap.

ok i`m ambushed.

'says anger.'



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we be tools of true sport of self function. we got to dusk our chest up brave at daysinn calls. we`re gonna face in full at face to face in stealth confidence mode. we`re not shaken by a mug of stuff cause we be not challenged at hearts.



we`re not chimp head, chimp head gets mad. we puff up.

we do swirl and launch at harmony that we are what we like, no matter it gets.

I lose temper very quickly usually but the temper usually evaporates in a short time.
I'm normally a pretty placid person,but if someone hurts me to the quick meaning I react with anger,then watch out!

I tend to simmer.. simmer over the conversation then I sit and ponder - 
and if the person continues to push and push,, then I can Blow..
I prefer to sit and talk it out as long as the other person is interested in my feelings and opinions - nothing worse than someone talking over you.. blah blah me me blah blah.. and not listening to what  has upset you.  
Either that or I just walk away and cut all ties - 
negative energy is not worth the time space or stress.. lol lol 

hop on the rides - people. fun stuff about anger is that we took it serious alike monkeys. here`s your soda and chili chips and enjoy your happy angry hour worth of hours and hours up blast. fin.

jcam@sii wrote:hop on the rides - people. fun stuff about anger is that we took it serious alike monkeys. here`s your soda and chili chips and enjoy your happy angry hour worth of hours and hours up blast. fin.

Agreed young man..... sometimes it is best to calm down and agree to disagree and move on.  xxx

RavenMoon wrote:

jcam@sii wrote:hop on the rides - people. fun stuff about anger is that we took it serious alike monkeys. here`s your soda and chili chips and enjoy your happy angry hour worth of hours and hours up blast. fin.

Agreed young man..... sometimes it is best to calm down and agree to disagree and move on.  xxx

Very true,RavenMoon.....I totally agree....

another`s wills on us we walk it like a free puppie. free puppie swooshes it nice on follow go. just styled of pijamas instead of stress.

just grind your control like no one told us to get upset, 'so we slash like alarm to pay our dues.'


we know what`s good and what happens from that, and vice verse, can keep easy on hippo head prepared.


we don`t go to none but lace tight for others in need and us in need.