Having no regrets vs. Living with regrets

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I can't really contribute to your thread since I don't have regrets!  Perhaps I see how if A didn't happen then B and C would not have occurred, i.e. can see the bigger picture when reflecting back.  Doing the best you can, mindful of learning from what doesn't succeed and accessing your intuition helps to stay on a more positive route.

I have no regrets also, and i am happier than eve without them.

Hello Walter,

Welcome to the community.

On the topic of regrets, it means you learned something from that experience but it is still up to you if you'll take it positively or negatively. The good thing is that you are becoming cautious as you set your goals and making it happen while balancing your relationships with people, your situation and yourself. Regrets is a good reminder of not doing and going through the same mistake, a chance to make it right without hurting the people we love.

Regrets are from the past, be here in the NOW and never suffer again from stupid regrets, they only leak your energy.

The different views are just due to the way that people interpret regret.

There is regret that has associations to guilt, shame, self blame and painful memories. If that is whatvregretbis, then it stands to reason that a person is better off without it. 

Then there is regret that has associations to acknowledgment of self responsibilty for personal responses and the personal development that comes from that.   

Whether a person responds by having no regret or having plenty of regret depends on the associations a person makes to the word regret.

Everyone,all of us have regrets,maybe you call it by another name,but we all have regrets,especially as children,and children no matter their background or upbringing have said some cruel things to other kids who were different!

In primary school we had a girl who had been burnt,terribly burnt face and neck,she was in my class,by the time we left primary school aged 11 years this poor girl was virtually ostracised,her nickname was "burnt face Willis", and I regret that I was a part of that group of kids who left her to sit alone and be excluded from all little social groups or " clicks"!

Yes I regret that,but I tell myself even now that I too was a child and didn't know any better!

So,everyone has regrets,but they call them by another name,and I think we had a thread very similar to this recently were I said I regretted making friends with a certain person in my late teens,and I stand by that statement,we all have regrets,but we convince ourselves that we don't,we call them something else!

ameliorate wrote:Welcome to this spiritual forum!  You might like to introduce yourself in this section


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I can't really contribute to your thread since I don't have regrets!  Perhaps I see how if A didn't happen then B and C would not have occurred, i.e. can see the bigger picture when reflecting back.  Doing the best you can, mindful of learning from what doesn't succeed and accessing your intuition helps to stay on a more positive route.

Haha, got it, I am new to forums so I am still trying to figure it all out, thanks. 

Thats awesome that you don't have any regrets, thats the life I'm trying to live. 

Thank you for your feedback!

Blueanchor wrote:The different views are just due to the way that people interpret regret.

There is regret that has associations to guilt, shame, self blame and painful memories. If that is whatvregretbis, then it stands to reason that a person is better off without it. 

Then there is regret that has associations to acknowledgment of self responsibilty for personal responses and the personal development that comes from that.   

Whether a person responds by having no regret or having plenty of regret depends on the associations a person makes to the word regret.

Exactly, I completely agree! 

I think I was just initially fascinated on how different people associate one word with different perspectives. Like, to one person, regret is something they should do and to others, regret is something they shouldn't have done.

gigpdo wrote:Everyone,all of us have regrets,maybe you call it by another name,but we all have regrets,especially as children,and children no matter their background or upbringing have said some cruel things to other kids who were different!

In primary school we had a girl who had been burnt,terribly burnt face and neck,she was in my class,by the time we left primary school aged 11 years this poor girl was virtually ostracised,her nickname was "burnt face Willis", and I regret that I was a part of that group of kids who left her to sit alone and be excluded from all little social groups or " clicks"!

Yes I regret that,but I tell myself even now that I too was a child and didn't know any better!

So,everyone has regrets,but they call them by another name,and I think we had a thread very similar to this recently were I said I regretted making friends with a certain person in my late teens,and I stand by that statement,we all have regrets,but we convince ourselves that we don't,we call them something else!

Thank you for you input, 

I agree I can definitely remember times in my childhood years when I wasn't very nice to that kid who didn't fit a traditional mold. It's crazy because up until I read your reply I haven't thought about the times I've treated people poorly in my younger years at all. Maybe I've tried to repress those memories because I didn't like that part of me. 

Very Interesting, Thanks again.

Aube Borealis wrote:Hello Walter,

Welcome to the community.

On the topic of regrets, it means you learned something from that experience but it is still up to you if you'll take it positively or negatively. The good thing is that you are becoming cautious as you set your goals and making it happen while balancing your relationships with people, your situation and yourself. Regrets is a good reminder of not doing and going through the same mistake, a chance to make it right without hurting the people we love.

Completely agree, it's all about personal growth and using it as a tool to be a better person.

Well Walter27 you certainly got a few people answering your post,could that be conscrued as being "subconsciously guilty"?

Not only did I answer your question but in doing so I admitted I was a rotten little child,but at 6-7 years of age kids don't know right from wrong,there were no parents following their kids around correcting them at primary school,but I remember asking my mother about all kinds of things as children do,but kids are very inquisitive,but I was very different to other kids,I was on another planet as a child,but I regret a lot of things,all except telling the truth,I never have in the past,present or future regretted being honest!

One of the posters here is not being honest with their answer,you know who it is Walter27,but we all have regrets,all of us,we just butter them up to seem different,to be positive,regret seems to have a negative or failed connotation attached.
Regrets are good for the body,spirit and soul,it means the "regretor" is on the right path of learning,the path to knowledge,able to realise what self really is!