How do you get your information?

I am just curious as to how everyone else gets there information.. My problem is my lack of confidence. So perhaps in hearing how others do it, , sorry, it can help with building my confidence some.. Perhaps, anyways.

the more descriptive the better.

Lack of confidence can be very debilitating with mediumship, but it's not about being massively confident either, sounds confusing I know, I struggled a lot because I was hearing in my own voice and I now know a lot of my early stuff was dismissed as imagination, the way I sorted this out was to close down the 'me' part of my brain so I knew that what came through then was not me.

Violet wrote:Lack of confidence can be very debilitating with mediumship, but it's not about being massively confident either, sounds confusing I know, I struggled a lot because I was hearing in my own voice and I now know a lot of my early stuff was dismissed as imagination, the way I sorted this out was to close down the 'me' part of my brain so I knew that what came through then was not me.

I knew there was a reason I liked you...
You just desribed me to a t, and now you understand my dilemma. For when I get something. It comes through bits and bits, and it's all in my voice. And it's not complete sentences. I have to focus to get it to happen.. But I cant differentiate between my own thoughts, and others.

Hi Innerlight aww....I like you too

I found it very helpful to give exactly what I got (after a few 'lessons' nothing major or bad mind,) if it doesn't make sense to me it doesn't matter, the most obscure of messages can often be the biggest and most amazing part of a reading which leaves the sitter with NO doubt it is their loved one communicating.
Are you up for a little 'experiment?'
What i'd like you to do when you get time (it doesn't need to be a long time,) i'd like you to do a brief meditation just to calm your thoughts and take a few deep breaths to calm you.
Then inside your mind visualise a door, and then visualise you closing that door on yourself or on your mind if it makes it easier, visualise your mind as an item you can put inside a box and close the door on the box this way you are telling yourself your mind has now been put to one side.
Next focus a few moments on my username, then ask if anyone has a few words or anything else to share with me.
This next bit is really important you need to pay very close attention to anything you get, you may get a smell, a sound, a word, music, you may see a symbol or an image or even hear a name or a sentence, or you might get a feeling or an emotion, you may even feel a brief pain somewhere in your body, it may be very subtle but don't strain to get it simply stay relaxed and allow it to come as gently as it wants to come.

Try to remember every little detail you get, then thank whoever has helped you and then open the door and let your mind back out, then note everything down here.

I think you may surprise yourself, this will not be a reading as such but I will give you honest feedback as if it were, this is merely to see if this method works for you, please do not be shy about posting really odd things should you get anything like that, simply give what you get or you can pm it if you prefer but we'll keep a log in here if that's ok.
It sounds very labourous and longwinded but trust me it is quicker than it seems when you're doing this

I kind of let my mind 'go' and the best way to explain this would be the example of trying to see auras-if you're new to trying to see them.
Just like you are meant to not really look at the person whose aura you want to see-the way they tell you to look at them but not really-as in sort of out of focus...
Hope I'm making sense here

Anyhow I do the same thing with my mind-if I try to use my mind then nothing really happens, if I try too hard to let go, then nothing really happens, but it's when I'm in-between being aware with my mind but also being open and being aware outside my mind...
Sometimes I try to go into a state where I clear my mind and think nothing-this is difficult to describe, but you could sort of say it's like going into a trance-like state...but only subtly.

Violet wrote:Hi Innerlight aww....I like you too

I found it very helpful to give exactly what I got (after a few 'lessons' nothing major or bad mind,) if it doesn't make sense to me it doesn't matter, the most obscure of messages can often be the biggest and most amazing part of a reading which leaves the sitter with NO doubt it is their loved one communicating.
Are you up for a little 'experiment?'
What i'd like you to do when you get time (it doesn't need to be a long time,) i'd like you to do a brief meditation just to calm your thoughts and take a few deep breaths to calm you.
Then inside your mind visualise a door, and then visualise you closing that door on yourself or on your mind if it makes it easier, visualise your mind as an item you can put inside a box and close the door on the box this way you are telling yourself your mind has now been put to one side.
Next focus a few moments on my username, then ask if anyone has a few words or anything else to share with me.
This next bit is really important you need to pay very close attention to anything you get, you may get a smell, a sound, a word, music, you may see a symbol or an image or even hear a name or a sentence, or you might get a feeling or an emotion, you may even feel a brief pain somewhere in your body, it may be very subtle but don't strain to get it simply stay relaxed and allow it to come as gently as it wants to come.

Try to remember every little detail you get, then thank whoever has helped you and then open the door and let your mind back out, then note everything down here.

I think you may surprise yourself, this will not be a reading as such but I will give you honest feedback as if it were, this is merely to see if this method works for you, please do not be shy about posting really odd things should you get anything like that, simply give what you get or you can pm it if you prefer but we'll keep a log in here if that's ok.
It sounds very labourous and longwinded but trust me it is quicker than it seems when you're doing this

Do you like Tulips, btw... Perhaps orange, or peachy tulips?

The biggest obstacle, well in my head anyways. Is that I am seldomly a visual person. So I work off of what I am told, or that comes to me in bits and pieces.
Being an art person I prefer visual. I think that is what conflict me.

I will try your idea when I get some down time and see what I can pick up. I will post in here what I get.. And will have no problem practicing with anyone..
Without putting to much pressure on myself to get something, that is. I'd love to work in a group, but there is no groups near me. The closest being 1.5 hours away.
Online is the closest I have. I couldn't do skype.

Sacred-Star wrote:I kind of let my mind 'go' and the best way to explain this would be the example of trying to see auras-if you're new to trying to see them.
Just like you are meant to not really look at the person whose aura you want to see-the way they tell you to look at them but not really-as in sort of out of focus...
Hope I'm making sense here

Anyhow I do the same thing with my mind-if I try to use my mind then nothing really happens, if I try too hard to let go, then nothing really happens, but it's when I'm in-between being aware with my mind but also being open and being aware outside my mind...
Sometimes I try to go into a state where I clear my mind and think nothing-this is difficult to describe, but you could sort of say it's like going into a trance-like state...but only subtly.

I've never been able to get past the first level of a persons aura. The grayish outline. But I understand what you are saying. I wish I could turn off my mind. It's like a child. The more I try and tune it out or silence it the louder it wants to get. Then it starts to shout out things to distract and confuse me, and to lower my confidence.

There are a few times that I've gotten into that state you are talking about. That is the state where images come in. That state I have not mastered, or learned how to do. It's more like I stumble into it.

Don't try to silence it, if thoughts keep coming let them, then let them go this does get easier with practice, as for the tulips they are a memory so thank you.

Violet wrote:Don't try to silence it, if thoughts keep coming let them, then let them go this does get easier with practice, as for the tulips they are a memory so thank you.

Welcome... Was I right on the color?
Silence it was a strong word. As the more you force it the harder it becomes. I meant more of an let it go/ignore type of thing. In my head it makes sense.

innerlight wrote:

Sacred-Star wrote:I kind of let my mind 'go' and the best way to explain this would be the example of trying to see auras-if you're new to trying to see them.
Just like you are meant to not really look at the person whose aura you want to see-the way they tell you to look at them but not really-as in sort of out of focus...
Hope I'm making sense here

Anyhow I do the same thing with my mind-if I try to use my mind then nothing really happens, if I try too hard to let go, then nothing really happens, but it's when I'm in-between being aware with my mind but also being open and being aware outside my mind...
Sometimes I try to go into a state where I clear my mind and think nothing-this is difficult to describe, but you could sort of say it's like going into a trance-like state...but only subtly.

I've never been able to get past the first level of a persons aura. The grayish outline. But I understand what you are saying. I wish I could turn off my mind. It's like a child. The more I try and tune it out or silence it the louder it wants to get. Then it starts to shout out things to distract and confuse me, and to lower my confidence.

There are a few times that I've gotten into that state you are talking about. That is the state where images come in. That state I have not mastered, or learned how to do. It's more like I stumble into it.

Oh I get distracted often my friend but I always find that using crystals help me. I tune in a little to the energy of the crystal and feel it.
This is difficult for you say that the more you try the louder it gets. Maybe just let your mind shout and rave, maybe just accept that it is doing this-maybe tell it 'I know you are...'

What works for me is when I adopt the lethargy-phase. I just accept the other stuff that comes galloping into my mind and then, just fall into lethargy. What I mean is you know when you are really bored and are just sitting down staring at the walls-I sort of use something like this-but maybe if you play some kind of soothing music it might help?

Yes we had a few colours
Just acknowledge the thought, say in your mind 'ok i've heard you' then leave it and carry on with what you're doing.

Violet wrote:Yes we had a few colours
Just acknowledge the thought, say in your mind 'ok i've heard you' then leave it and carry on with what you're doing.

Ok, I have attempted to clear my mind, and allow anything to come through that wanted to be shared.. Now, I am new to this and don't know what is true.. It was really just tidbits. Not complete thoughts. Symbols without images.

The first was

Grandparent? Grandmother?

Then the name Carl, or Caroline, perhaps?

Roses came next, but not about love, more about peace.

There was also something about a job. Perhaps a new job, or new venture.

There was also congrats... And a baby somewhere? Perhaps being born in your family?? I'm not sure if the congrats was about the job thing, or the baby.

And that was all it.. It makes no sense to me.. Or is just rubbish.

HI Innerlight here we go i'll give you HONEST feedback (if this was intended for me)

Grandparent? Grandmother?
One of the most important person in my life..thank you


Then the name Carl, or Caroline, perhaps?


Yes! i'm currently worried avbout this lady

Roses came next, but not about love, more about peace.
to me a white rose is always for peace and I gave one to my gran when she was in her coffin for this reason

There was also something about a job. Perhaps a new job, or new venture.
Yes there are things in the pipeline I hope this happens

There was also congrats... And a baby somewhere? Perhaps being born in your family?? I'm not sure if the congrats was about the job thing, or the baby.
Yes there is a baby due in a couple of months i'm quite excited about this (not me btw )

And that was all it.. It makes no sense to me.. Or is just rubbish.

Nope not rubbish, I told you you'd surprise yourself, that's very accurate , the human mind tries automatically to make sense of what it doesn't understand so many messages can become distorted, you have done very well here and kept it simple and to the point, thank you I think you're more than ready to open a thread here for practice or offer in the existing thread if you want to.

Yea, I always end up surprising myself. Which leaves me with a happy feeling, but also disbelief. I'm just happy it's ever taken. Even some of it.

It's good you could take it. Though there wasn't much to go with it. I don't know if it was a grandparent talking to me, or if it was about a grand parent. There wasn't anything about the color of the roses, just that they were about peace. It would of been nice if it was more complete as to what was what.. but it's really a good start.

I do hope the job thing, deja vu as I type this out like I've typed this out before, pans out for you. And congrats on the baby thing.

I don't have any problem practicing with people. It's the only way to get better. Perhaps I will keep this thread how it is so I can still learn others way of communing. And create another thread for it.

You sound like me when I started out the disbelief and stuff, there doesn't need to be much btw, quality over quantity everytime imo, i'd definately practice when you can Thank you innerlight

Sacred-Star wrote:Oh I get distracted often my friend but I always find that using crystals help me. I tune in a little to the energy of the crystal and feel it.
This is difficult for you say that the more you try the louder it gets. Maybe just let your mind shout and rave, maybe just accept that it is doing this-maybe tell it 'I know you are...'

What works for me is when I adopt the lethargy-phase. I just accept the other stuff that comes galloping into my mind and then, just fall into lethargy. What I mean is you know when you are really bored and are just sitting down staring at the walls-I sort of use something like this-but maybe if you play some kind of soothing music it might help?

I must of missed this.. I will try these suggestions and just let my mind tire itself out, instead of trying to fight it. I don't think that would be a battle I'd ever win.

Hi Innerlight!! How ya been?

Yea just like Violet says and all that you say. I just feel it in my bones. I think that is what the Holy Spirit is. I think when I ignore something I "FEEL" in my bones or my heart that is not right, it usually always is wrong.
I guess with confidence ya just have to go with the flow. Feel it in your bones.

Like John Lennon said "Turn off your mind, relax and float down stream"
"Lay down all thought, Surrender to the void "

Then I think information will come in by itself!

innerlight wrote:I am just curious as to how everyone else gets there information.. My problem is my lack of confidence. So perhaps in hearing how others do it, , sorry, it can help with building my confidence some.. Perhaps, anyways.

the more descriptive the better.

From my divine self.
Not very good in explaining how I (we) work. To say it simply, I have a connection almost constantly, and if for some reason this connection brakes, it only takes a few seconds to reestablish the connection.
The strength of the connection can vary. Information comes on more then one level. Sometimes I just know, thoughts, yes/no trough energy flow or the lack of it.

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Great explanation!!!

I'd also like to add...

There will be times when you will be way off mark when using your skills.
I've given some readings that were way off the mark-the person who I did the reading for told me that nothing in that reading applied to their lives or made any sense...

This is something you just have to accept-we all have good days and bad days and giving readings isn't that different.
Sometimes you will come through spot on, other times folks will say that some of the reading makes sense, yet the part about X does not apply to them.
Other times folks will tell you that nothing made sense.
If you give a reading and the person says 'nope-sorry that didn't apply to me at all mate' then just accept that it didn't apply to them, but don't let it drag you down.

There have been times when I've given past life readings and man were some of these past lives so damn weird or way out there, that I thought the person I was doing the reading for, would reply back and say 'Are you sure that this was my past life? Geez you've got real wild imagination-what have you been smoking?'
But then these 'out there' readings sometimes make a lot of sense to people.

Best you can do is practice and remember-don't let the 'not accurate' replies get to you

Detlef wrote:
From my divine self.
Not very good in explaining how I (we) work. To say it simply, I have a connection almost constantly, and if for some reason this connection brakes, it only takes a few seconds to reestablish the connection.
The strength of the connection can vary. Information comes on more then one level. Sometimes I just know, thoughts, yes/no trough energy flow or the lack of it.

Hi Detlef,
Thanks for your reply... I should of been more clear. I wasn't wondering where it comes from. As it will vary for many people. I was more referring to how you get your information. Do you see images? Do the images spell things out? Do you see say for instance an apple. Then go on and translate it to being something else. Do you hear words outside of your head? Do you hear words in your head? Is it in your own voice, or an outside voice? Is it whole sentences? Is it just a word? Etc...

The one thing I am noticing when connecting is that afterwards I can have a slight headache. I'm sure it's normal until I build up being used to this type of communication.
I do ground afterwards, and get something to drink and or eat. It was mentioned to drink something before hand as well.

is that afterwards I can have a slight headache

I used to get this too, and you're right to ground and get a cup of tea and a light biscuit or something, it helps with the grounding

Sacred-Star wrote:I'd also like to add...

There will be times when you will be way off mark when using your skills.
I've given some readings that were way off the mark-the person who I did the reading for told me that nothing in that reading applied to their lives or made any sense...

This is something you just have to accept-we all have good days and bad days and giving readings isn't that different.
Sometimes you will come through spot on, other times folks will say that some of the reading makes sense, yet the part about X does not apply to them.
Other times folks will tell you that nothing made sense.
If you give a reading and the person says 'nope-sorry that didn't apply to me at all mate' then just accept that it didn't apply to them, but don't let it drag you down.

There have been times when I've given past life readings and man were some of these past lives so damn weird or way out there, that I thought the person I was doing the reading for, would reply back and say 'Are you sure that this was my past life? Geez you've got real wild imagination-what have you been smoking?'
But then these 'out there' readings sometimes make a lot of sense to people.

Best you can do is practice and remember-don't let the 'not accurate' replies get to you

This began happening to me, a bit too frequently for my liking, I more or less hung up my medium shoes, people told me I have too much to think about in my material life and I won't ever lose it, but it did feel that way and I lost ALL of my confidence (which took so long to build up in the first place.)

Violet wrote:
This began happening to me, a bit too frequently for my liking, I more or less hung up my medium shoes, people told me I have too much to think about in my material life and I won't ever lose it, but it did feel that way and I lost ALL of my confidence (which took so long to build up in the first place.)

I know it's possible to get it "wrong" but i've alwyas wondered about that. Is the message not clear? Is it the channels fault? or did they mix up the message for another person?