Why do some people have N.D.E's, but others don't?

I have been wondering about this now for ages! I have a friend who when they were young, stopped breathing- now the whole time this happened, doctors where breathing for them and keeping their heart active so in that sense, I don't think they really "died" but they have no memory of anything.

Looking into it, N.D.E's are such a debated topic. We have that Neurosurgeon who claims to have had one, but then we get the article with another Doctor ripping apart his claims with the medical facts behind it. Then there's the article written by an Intensive Care unit nurse who fully believes in life after death due to the number of her patients having N.D.E's and all describing them in more or less the same detail, and the one's who are about to die, saying things along the lines of; "It's beautiful" or they can see their passed loved ones in the room with them.

But not everyone has these. I recently came across a blog written by someone who was once, in their words, a 'hardcore bible basher' but after dying on the table and not seeing anything, they became an atheist...There's a huge blog for people who have 'died' but not seen anything... 

There's so much controversy on this subject. I want to believe there is more after this life- I can't imagine that final goodbye to loved ones as an eternal goodbye.

So any idea's to why some people have them and others don't? =) Do some spirits/souls just take longer than others to leave the body? Does it depend on our acceptance of death? I suppose elderly people or people who have been sick for a very long time are far more willing to go than others, could that be why they're more likely to have an "insant" N.D.E than people who still cling to life because there's still more to do, so the soul will stay until the body has completely died?

Welcome Ronaii, You have some valid questions, I'm not sure what
the answer is as to why some have NDE's and others don't. I only believe in them because my mother had one and told me about it,
she was told to go back as it wasn't her time.

Aqua wrote:Welcome Ronaii, You have some valid questions, I'm not sure what
the answer is as to why some have NDE's and others don't. I only believe in them because my mother had one and told me about it,
she was told to go back as it wasn't her time.

Thank you, Aqua =) I've wondered about this for a couple of years now, I keep meaning to buy books focusing around NDE's, but being a student I'm always strapped for cash x'D

Must be nice knowing someone who had one =) Pretty comforting ^ ^

If you have a library nearby, they have books on the subject.

My Mother was a teenager when it happened to her, it made a big impression on her.

Aqua wrote:Welcome Ronaii, You have some valid questions, I'm not sure what
the answer is as to why some have NDE's and others don't. I only believe in them because my mother had one and told me about it,
she was told to go back as it wasn't her time.

Have you ever wondered why they sent her back, if it wasn't her time why did she have one? As the OP has commented there has been records of seeing nothing so I wonder what triggers one.

Auras wrote:

Aqua wrote:Welcome Ronaii, You have some valid questions, I'm not sure what
the answer is as to why some have NDE's and others don't. I only believe in them because my mother had one and told me about it,
she was told to go back as it wasn't her time.

Have you ever wondered why they sent her back, if it wasn't her time why did she have one? As the OP has commented there has been records of seeing nothing so I wonder what triggers one.

Maybe my brother, sister and I were meant to be born to her.

ameliorate wrote:Maybe not everyone has an NDE because not everyone has a clinical death from which they are revived from.

Interesting point that, ive also heard that some have terrifying NDEs and see nothing pleasant at all.

Thank you for this thought provoking topic Ronaii, I believe people have them so they can share this experience with us. 

We are born into a realm wherein we have no memory of a previous existence. We have no memories of conception or our entrance into Earth. We know we came through our mothers birth canal, yet we don't recall it ourselves. 

Therefore, NDE and OBE is a confirmation of existence beyond, and after this life. 

Now this certainly sounds like nonsense to those who refuse to acknowledge the power of the human spirit. Denying an existence beyond what we experience day by day. 

However, I've never had an NDE because I haven't come close to death yet, but I've had a few OBE's which I enjoy sharing with others. I share them because I feel people should know; the spirit within our body is not limited to the physical restrictions we place upon it. 

Love to all..

What a very complex question,and the first time I have come across it on the forum,and I thought I read every subject here,must of missed it!

Why would some have them (nde's) and others not,its a good question.
Firstly do nde's only happen to people who believe in them? The answer obviously is no,they usually happen to anyone,and mainly folk who know nothing about the afterlife!
So where does that leave us,well nowhere really,and it means that every answer you get here will only be a guess,and not a very educated guess at that!

People can only tell you their experience,and that is usually treated with scorn and derision anyway.
Now I can give my opinion which is only based on my personal experience, so its only relevant to me not anyone else.

When we die and the soul/spirit leaves the body and of course it is connected to the physical body.
So just what is happening?,well the silver cord contains all your past lives memories,so if you have lived a lot of lives and been through a lot of incarnations then the memories are all stored in the silver cord,which when you think about it is very logical,every person on earth has a body (that dies) and a soul/spirit that somehow continues on forever,even after we have completed all our rounds of reincarnations,our memories have to be stored somewhere,so why not the silver cord!
It goes with us wherever we go!

The cord is only severed on the earthly plane,it does not vanish into thin air,it is severed or detached at death,but only the physical death,not the soul/spirit death!
Basically the other "end" goes somewhere,but where does it go,if its connected to the astral body then it is not severed from that,why,because the astral/spirit body never dies,the silver cord is only severed from the physical which is deteriorating very quickly,hence the silver cord needs earth time,or relevant time to detach and keep all the information from this present life,or round of existence.
It is usually 72 earth hours,why 72 hours,well if Christian it is based on the Crucifixion and death of Christ, from when Jesus Christ died on Good Friday to when he "arose" on Easter Monday is/was 72 hours!

Now what does this mean to a non Christian,nothing if you are not a Christian and are buried before the 72 time period,everything is based on the death and rebirth of Christ,non Christian beliefs are just alien to me,even if I was brought up to another religion I would follow my own beliefs and come to my own conclusion, not my parents belief by birthright!

Now that's the only answer I have,and I could elaborate and go into more detail but I won't,why not,well because there are members here who just want to contradict everything,probably from not just boredom but ignorance too!