Death of a Parent

Family with 3 children, ages 4 a girl,7 a boy and 12 a girl!
Would they turn out better if mum brought them up,mum has not worked for 12 years,a receptionist,aged 33!
Their father dies in an accident, they have a mortgage and need his work as a trade mechanic and his overtime to survive,just be comfortable!

Or the mother dies,lets say cancer,the father has to bring up 3 kids,he is 36 years old and needs to work to support his kids,still has to pay bills etc!

Question,would the children turn out better or worse,socially,spiritually and well balanced individuals under one parent mother or one parent father!

This was an average family,no particular race,colour or creed,so anyone from anywhere,but assume middle working class!

A present parent is far better than no parent at all. It doesn't matter which gender.  When a child is able to physically touch a part of their DNA this is yet another one of life's little gifts. I am one in the third of six living generations and it has been a wonderful gift to share 95 years of my grandmother's life. 

Love to all...
CW

How people respond to circumstance tends to be more related to the coping mechanisms they have learnt and the support they are able to access at times of need... rather than specific circumstances.

Why are you so interested is it something you are doing?
 i can speak from experience about this. grief is a personal thing and can last for a long time.anything can trigger the grief.to loose the main breadwinner from any family can cause a lot of stress etc it would depend how independent the parent left to deal with things is.
 if they did'nt deal with bills money for everyday things.they would have to learn to do it.a lot depends on the person.but to loose a parent at a young age is something else believe me

Namaste

Why are you so interested is it something you are doing?
 i can speak from experience about this. grief is a personal thing and can last for a long time.anything can trigger the grief.to loose the main breadwinner from any family can cause a lot of stress etc it would depend how independent the parent left to deal with things is.
 if they did'nt deal with bills money for everyday things.they would have to learn to do it.a lot depends on the person.but to loose a parent at a young age is something else believe me

Namaste

Hello,
I am just very interested what people think the positives and negatives would be, would the children suffer more in the long term without a mum or without a dad,how well balanced would the girls would be being brought up by a male figure not female,especially the subject of boys and sex!
Would the young girls be disadvantaged,or vise versa for the boy if mum has to give him advice with girls at puberty.
But I mainly wanted real answers that cannot be "obtained instantly on Google"
So you actually have to think,so you really have to think your answers by personal experience, or if single with no kids what would be a better outcome,if not an equal outcome for the well balanced production of young adults,from one parent families,would these kids grow up "harder" with dad or "softer" with mum,or no difference!

It would depend entirely on the parent

As long as there is love, there is hope.

I agree!....  

I lost my mother a few weeks ago, I was her caretaker for 9 months in my home. This was very difficult making decisions for someone else life and body. Watching her struggle for life while using all I have to help her survive. There is much I can say about the experience nevertheless, knowing she is free from pain and suffering gives me a sense of freedom for both of us.


Love to all...
CW

I believe it is a tremendous gift when each generation can teach and touch the other. My family still have six living generations, my mother was the second. My grandmother 97 is still alive. 
I lost a loving mother she carried me in her belly for nine months and I carried her during the last 9 months of her life on earth. I feel the loss, but I also feel the freedom of her passing. I found her body cold in her room early morning, when I felt the cold on her arm I went to turn up the heat. Then I touched her head and it was also cold that's when I knew she was gone. 

Love to all...
CW

CW wrote:I lost my mother a few weeks ago, I was her caretaker for 9 months in my home. This was very difficult making decisions for someone else life and body. Watching her struggle for life while using all I have to help her survive. There is much I can say about the experience nevertheless, knowing she is free from pain and suffering gives me a sense of freedom for both of us.


Love to all...
CW

So sorry to read  this  CW,  my thoughts are with you and your family

Condolences on the loss of your mother.


 Namaste

Thank you all very much for your support! Family comes in many forms, I'm so.....hapy to have a cyber family 


Love to all...
CW