A Serious Topic.

Alright this email was sent to me a joke but looking at the age differences between men and women who marry, to me is not normal.

...and I am talking about more than 20 years difference.

Most of the females were over 50 years old.
Their male companions were sometimes half that age.

Can that really be love? 

I would want to 'mother' them.....

 No,I would feel the same as you,Amy.    

God bless my late husband but through 23 years of our marriage,I looked after him through 14 of those 23 years when he suffered with cancer.    
I didn't mind for he looked after me and through all those years we were married,it was a very happy marriage.     Never harsh words 
from him in all those years.

Still that's another subject.

I don't care how young we look at any age,age takes it's toll.
Are they still going to be interested when that beautiful woman starts to show her age....?
Would money and prestige be the draw?

 Well there is another way to look at this if you are looking for love,dont worry he most prob hasnt been born yet 
it wouldnt do for me though


Namaste

In my opinion, age differences of this amount give me the reason to believe ego is the backing behind it...more often than not.  Here, we refer to these women as "cougars". They prance around as men did/and still do with a trophy on their arm. I feel like these younger ones fill a void for them in either sex. 
While in instances that two people with this age gap can be legitimately in love, I believe its rare.

Then is "love" real...or is it always "lust"?

Native spirit wrote: Well there is another way to look at this if you are looking for love,dont worry he most prob hasnt been born yet 
it wouldnt do for me though


Namaste

Nor me,Carron.     I like the same generation as myself......

Mr.Whitmore wrote:Then is "love" real...or is it always "lust"?

Love on a woman's side I think and lust on a man's......though I don't know,I feel men can feel love as well a woman....

older women with much younger men..... aren't they called " cougars " ?

frisky fox wrote:older women with much younger men..... aren't they called " cougars " ?

'Cougars'....A woman chasing animals......Oh God! Not me.    Been quite content to have two.

Mr.Whitmore wrote:Then is "love" real...or is it always "lust"?

I do feel that love is real, can be real.  Also believe that lust comes first.  An attraction.
Some never advance to the love stage for whatever reasons why they choose not to.

partofme wrote:

Mr.Whitmore wrote:Then is "love" real...or is it always "lust"?

I do feel that love is real, can be real.  Also believe that lust comes first.  An attraction.
Some never advance to the love stage for whatever reasons why they choose not to.

ok...so lust comes first.....then what?

can you love or lust for someone by mere words alone...........or do you need a "face"?

Between the age of 28 and 100 anything goes..............thats what my dad always said..

I also don't believe age matters... and I despise the term "cougar".

People fall in love all the time... you don't stop relating to people just because you have more years under your belt than others. People are kind and loving and fun at all ages... preconceived notions about age is awfully limiting, I find.

Mr.Whitmore wrote:

partofme wrote:

Mr.Whitmore wrote:Then is "love" real...or is it always "lust"?

I do feel that love is real, can be real.  Also believe that lust comes first.  An attraction.
Some never advance to the love stage for whatever reasons why they choose not to.

ok...so lust comes first.....then what?

can you love or lust for someone by mere words alone...........or do you need a "face"?

Between the age of 28 and 100 anything goes..............thats what my dad always said..

Absolutely you can love someone by words alone... how else can you know the 'real' them? No distractions, pretty or handsome faces... you feel the real person, hear them, get to know them.

It's what's inside that counts, I truly believe this. Maybe it's just a fluffy feel good phrase to others.

Kaere wrote:

Mr.Whitmore wrote:

partofme wrote:

Mr.Whitmore wrote:Then is "love" real...or is it always "lust"?

I do feel that love is real, can be real.  Also believe that lust comes first.  An attraction.
Some never advance to the love stage for whatever reasons why they choose not to.

ok...so lust comes first.....then what?

can you love or lust for someone by mere words alone...........or do you need a "face"?

Between the age of 28 and 100 anything goes..............thats what my dad always said..

Absolutely you can love someone by words alone... how else can you know the 'real' them? No distractions, pretty or handsome faces... you feel the real person, hear them, get to know them.

It's what's inside that counts, I truly believe this. Maybe it's just a fluffy feel good phrase to others.

You got it,Kaere......No pretty faces,no handsome faces.    It's what is inside that counts.  A link that is formed that no one can break.....not even ourselves.

Mr.Whitmore wrote:

partofme wrote:

Mr.Whitmore wrote:Then is "love" real...or is it always "lust"?

I do feel that love is real, can be real.  Also believe that lust comes first.  An attraction.
Some never advance to the love stage for whatever reasons why they choose not to.

ok...so lust comes first.....then what?

can you love or lust for someone by mere words alone...........or do you need a "face"?

Between the age of 28 and 100 anything goes..............thats what my dad always said..

then love, possibly. If thats where your heart wants to take it.
People can love or lust on whatever level they accept.  Take the show "Catfish", for example.  Fine American television, I might add.
These people fall head over heels for others over the internet, some with never seeing the others faces. As you put it.. mere words alone.  The twisted possibility is...they may or may not be having a relationship with who they thought. Different genders, different personalities all together, ect.   
I watch it for educational purposes only. 

Strong possibility your dad and mine were related!

Kaere wrote:I also don't believe age matters... and I despise the term "cougar".

People fall in love all the time... you don't stop relating to people just because you have more years under your belt than others. People are kind and loving and fun at all ages... preconceived notions about age is awfully limiting, I find.

Its not a very smart description...is it?  I feel like a certain boundary is a rule.  I will say that 25 years difference the older you get does seem less of a gap though.   My mother is 85 and sees no problem dating men 25 years younger. She says if she sticks to her age group, there isnt much of a selection. 

Dropping the bomb on American tv again, a program called Cougartown was showcased a year or two ago. Not sure if its still around or not.

partofme wrote:

Mr.Whitmore wrote:

partofme wrote:

Mr.Whitmore wrote:Then is "love" real...or is it always "lust"?

I do feel that love is real, can be real.  Also believe that lust comes first.  An attraction.
Some never advance to the love stage for whatever reasons why they choose not to.

ok...so lust comes first.....then what?

can you love or lust for someone by mere words alone...........or do you need a "face"?

Between the age of 28 and 100 anything goes..............thats what my dad always said..

then love, possibly. If thats where your heart wants to take it.
People can love or lust on whatever level they accept.  Take the show "Catfish", for example.  Fine American television, I might add.
These people fall head over heels for others over the internet, some with never seeing the others faces. As you put it.. mere words alone.  The twisted possibility is...they may or may not be having a relationship with who they thought. Different genders, different personalities all together, ect.   
I watch it for educational purposes only. 

Strong possibility your dad and mine were related!

Wise advice.

So is your dad of scottish descent?

you could be my long lost cousin...lol

Mr.Whitmore wrote:

partofme wrote:

Mr.Whitmore wrote:

partofme wrote:

Mr.Whitmore wrote:Then is "love" real...or is it always "lust"?

I do feel that love is real, can be real.  Also believe that lust comes first.  An attraction.
Some never advance to the love stage for whatever reasons why they choose not to.

ok...so lust comes first.....then what?

can you love or lust for someone by mere words alone...........or do you need a "face"?

Between the age of 28 and 100 anything goes..............thats what my dad always said..

then love, possibly. If thats where your heart wants to take it.
People can love or lust on whatever level they accept.  Take the show "Catfish", for example.  Fine American television, I might add.
These people fall head over heels for others over the internet, some with never seeing the others faces. As you put it.. mere words alone.  The twisted possibility is...they may or may not be having a relationship with who they thought. Different genders, different personalities all together, ect.   
I watch it for educational purposes only. 

Strong possibility your dad and mine were related!

Wise advice.

So is your dad of scottish descent?

you could be my long lost cousin...lol

My mother is of Scottish decent so there still may be a chance.  Scottish men are "loose" with their age preferences?  I didnt know that.  My father is Indian/German, but he was still loose.

SpiritVoices wrote:My mother is 85 and sees no problem dating men 25 years younger. She says if she sticks to her age group, there isnt much of a selection. 


My personal opinion is .....I think older women are looking younger and older men are looking older.......


Ok,stop throwing brickbats........as she ducks......we loves you really....... 

My mother has never looked her age nor acted it.  She lived out her young adulthood in her 50,s and hadnt stopped since!

I must ask.. what are "brickbats"?

partofme wrote:

SpiritVoices wrote:My mother is 85 and sees no problem dating men 25 years younger. She says if she sticks to her age group, there isnt much of a selection. 


My personal opinion is .....I think older women are looking younger and older men are looking older.......


Ok,stop throwing brickbats........as she ducks......we loves you really....... 

My mother has never looked her age nor acted it.  She lived out her young adulthood in her 50,s and hadnt stopped since!

I must ask.. what are "brickbats"?

Another term for comedy,through little remarks.   Nothing bad.   A common expression in the UK...

Kaere wrote:I also don't believe age matters... and I despise the term "cougar".

People fall in love all the time... you don't stop relating to people just because you have more years under your belt than others. People are kind and loving and fun at all ages... preconceived notions about age is awfully limiting, I find.

I'm with Kaere on this one, i'm in a large age difference relationship, true love isn't based on looks or numbers, wrinkles or grey hair, as long as the people concerned are both consenting adults I see no issue

partofme wrote:

Mr.Whitmore wrote:

partofme wrote:

Mr.Whitmore wrote:

partofme wrote:I do feel that love is real, can be real.  Also believe that lust comes first.  An attraction.
Some never advance to the love stage for whatever reasons why they choose not to.

ok...so lust comes first.....then what?

can you love or lust for someone by mere words alone...........or do you need a "face"?

Between the age of 28 and 100 anything goes..............thats what my dad always said..

then love, possibly. If thats where your heart wants to take it.
People can love or lust on whatever level they accept.  Take the show "Catfish", for example.  Fine American television, I might add.
These people fall head over heels for others over the internet, some with never seeing the others faces. As you put it.. mere words alone.  The twisted possibility is...they may or may not be having a relationship with who they thought. Different genders, different personalities all together, ect.   
I watch it for educational purposes only. 

Strong possibility your dad and mine were related!

Wise advice.

So is your dad of scottish descent?

you could be my long lost cousin...lol

My mother is of Scottish decent so there still may be a chance.  Scottish men are "loose" with their age preferences?  I didnt know that.  My father is Indian/German, but he was still loose.

its the opposite for me...minus the german ancestory...

wow...my cousin...lol